DD_ss BDSM and Romance

Do you believe there is room for romance in BDSM?

Main Entry: ro·mance

1 a (1): a medieval tale based on legend, chivalric love and adventure, or the supernatural (2): a prose narrative treating imaginary characters involved in events remote in time or place and usually heroic, adventurous, or mysterious (3): a love story especially in the form of a novel b: a class of such literature
2: something (as an extravagant story or account) that lacks basis in fact
3: an emotional attraction or aura belonging to an especially heroic era, adventure, or activity

Given the definition of "romance", I don't think that BDSM necessitates romance, but there is room for it.

Does your M/s or D/s relationship have romance as part of the dynamics?

*soft smile* Yes, my relationship with Beloved is largely romantic. He is, in every sense of the word, my hero. He has rescued me from the clutches of evil doctors; he has cradled me against his chest; he has knelt before this Cinderella girl and seen beyond the smudges and tears and made me into his very own princess.



Do you feel romance can heighten the relationship, or does it detract from the power exchange?

Both. Because of his hero status, I am forever his. I strive to fulfill his desires and whims and beg for his reassurance that I am a good girl and doing what needs to be done with pride and grace worthy of his continued protection.

But, because Beloved is my hero, it can be a hard tumble when he is tracing a knife over my body and warning me to be very very still or he might slip. We do not have much physical BDSM play because marks are viewed as "abusive" or a failure in his protection and careful consideration...