So this morning I was flipping through e-mail and Beloved poked his head around the corner.
I got an odd e-mail on Fet. Someone mailed me and said that it looked like I'd trained the perfect domestic slave and would I be open to training another girl. What do you think?
I was amused, but practical...we don't have any place to board her right now, blah blah blah. Maybe his response should be that he'd discuss it with his alpha girl...
Later, curiosity got the best of me and I'd asked if I could see the message. He claimed to have deleted it, but then I asked how you delete things because I didn't know how, and he then said I caught his bluff...that he was just trying compliment me...that I was the best domestic he knew.
*ducks head, crinkles toes, blush, and grin*
Unfortunately, Boy is SICK. Poor kid has a nasty case of pink eye (more like red eye...totally blood shot and looked like someone punched him) as well as a cold. He's barely tolerant of the eye drops, but they burn and hurt and it makes me ache to hold him in my arms for the two minutes per the instructions. We've had to cancel most of our plans for tonight...Oddlots is coming over, but that's about it. Oh well, it will be a good change.
Which leads me to the DD_ss Year 2010 journal prompt
We're rapidly coming to the end of 2009 and all of its chaos and turbulence. Are you ready to leave it behind? Do you believe that 2010 will be a brighter tomorrow? When you approach the new year do you make personal resolutions towards positive change or do you slip into the new year as comfortably as you slip out of the old year? Do you believe in making resolutions and do they work for you? Do you make promises to yourself that are left broken and discarded 3 weeks into January? What works for you? Does January 1st, 2010 represent just another day for you or is the platform from which you will spring into a healthier and more balanced you?
I honestly haven't given 2010 much thought. I gritted my teeth all the way until Christmas to get my 2010 calendar (Thank you so much Sterling and Remmy!!!), but now I'm almost afraid to fill it out. While I hadn't thought about making any resolutions, perhaps I should.
On the recommendation of Felicitous_Dove several months ago, I signed up for Laura Doyle's newsletter from The Surrendered Wife. I won't say that I buy into her ideas hook, line, and sinker...but there is something there. I'm absolutely terrible about self-care. I'm not about to take up a manicure/pedicure addiction, but I can see how setting some boundaries might improve things in my life.
How much of these resolutions relate to your M/s or D/s relationships? Do you conscientiously try to modify your behavior to better please your Master or do you make efforts to improve yourself intellectually or emotionally for him/her?
*wry smile* Um...how does setting boundaries mesh with my D/s? That's a good question. Two possibilities:
* Being more careful not to over-extend myself. I tend to try to please EVERYONE, which makes me run thin and eventually fall apart, and Beloved has to pick me up and glue me back together. If I set some boundaries AND STICK WITH THEM, I won't run so thin, I'll be happier, thus better able to serve Beloved.
* Making space for Beloved and me ONLY. I've actually been working on this that last day or so...clearing all of the kids' stuff out of the Master suite and looking at locking door knobs. Besides the playtime aspect, the room could be our place for mediation and grounding.
I don't think I will try to make a resolution about modifying my behavior beyond this because it would no doubt a broken and discarded promise 3 weeks into January. Besides, learning to say NO gracefully is pretty mega-huge for this pixie.
*laughs* The good part about Boy being sick is I'm pretty much not giving a hoot about the house. We de-Chrismas-ifed it, put up some New Year's stuff, and that's about what I'm doing. In fact, three hours before people arrive, and I'm even contemplating a NAP! How is that for a start on self-care? I hope you have a wonderful evening and I'll see you in the new year!
This sounds like a good start -- and really, all we can ever hope for in life-as-a-whole is to make a good start as often as possible.
ReplyDeleteI see several good things in this post, but I'll just touch on one so I don't get too long-winded and preachy:
You're setting boundaries for yourself, which shows that you care about yourself. Not setting limits has the opposite effect, and shows one doesn't care.