Picture time

So that's us and Boy at the wedding. I liked the photo...there aren't many of us, though, so I'm glad it came out nicely.

It's hot and humid and summer in Chicagoland. I'm surviving, but really totally unmotivated to do ANYTHING. Beloved has tasked me with ironing and mending...*wrinkles nose* I suppose I should go do it...it's not even a terrible thing since I can watch a girlie movie at the same time. I don't know what my problem is...

eh...I do. It's hot and humid. *wry smile*

and I'm back!

hallelujah! It's Tuesday! The last of the guests left yesterday, and I got a full night's sleep last night. I almost feel human again. *grin* The wedding was fantastic, despite the stress of officiating, and it was wonderful to see so many friends from school. I hope you enjoyed your weekend.

Pictures of me

I have been called a chameleon...I just like to change my looks...I'm still ME. I stole silvara's link and made my own slideshow for you to enjoy.

Hope you have a fantastic weekend!

going incommunicado

So a lot of folks have voiced concern about my well-being lately. I appreciate it...seriously. Having friends, especially in the BDSM D/s world, means a lot to me! I just thought I'd preempt more worry by warning you that I'm not going to be around until next Tuesday. I'm officiating a wedding, hosting out of town guests, and my cousin's grad school graduation is happening. So, yeah. It's going to be fun, but I'm not going to be online much.

Thursday
5:30 am - pick up folks at the airport
1 pm - drop Boy off with sitter
4 pm - rehearsal
6-8:30 pm - dinner

Friday
9 am - dental appointment
12 pm - get everyone ready for wedding
2 pm - wedding party photo shoot (Beloved is part of the wedding party)
5 pm - wedding
??? - party until Boy calls it quits

Saturday
visiting Chicago with guests
evening - sister's graduation party

Sunday
hosting a reunion picnic for college friends in town for the wedding

Monday
entertaining guests until dropping them off at the airport at 6 pm

*soft smile* I hope your weekend is MUCH more relaxed!!!

Master's rules

'What are my duties?' I asked.
'Exquisite beauty and absolute obedience,' said Master.
~ Slave Girl of Gor

When I approached Beloved about D/s play, I did so because it answered something deep inside me. I had a need for guidance and for reassurance in my new life as mother. Lately, I have gotten too comfortable and have stumbled off the path in search of my own desires. For this reason, my Beloved Master has given me new rules and structure.

We discussed writing them down. Beloved expressed concern that it was sounding like a contract...I don't consider it to be a contract, but a reminder of what is expected of me. These rules are soft, flexible, subject to change, adjustment, and correction.


*** I am a representative and reflection of my Beloved Master in all things. To that end, I must conduct myself with grace and gratitude. This is especially important when in the company of folk who understand my submission to Beloved.

*** I am to always wear a mark of my submission, specifically the submission to my Beloved Master. This must be one of my Beloved Masters provided and / or accepted items.

*** I will communicate with my Beloved Master when I am distressed in any way. I will to the best of my abilities follow all my Beloved Master's rules, guidelines, and rituals he has provided.

*** I will keep my Beloved Master's home clean and tidy to the best of my ability, understanding that we have a small child.

*** I am to maintain my health and body in a manner that pleases my Beloved Master. Normal toilet duties, such as bathing, brushing teeth, cleaning ears, elimination processes, etc., shall be carried out as necessary without direction from my Beloved Master. Once a week, I shall volunteer a time to submit to my Beloved Master's bathing of me. I shall maintain a shaved pussy to the specifications of Beloved, allowing that to change as he chooses. I am also to keep up with regular medical appointments and prescriptions without further direction from my Beloved Master, although I am to mention changes in such care.

*** I am to be available to my Beloved Master's desires at all times. Stance commands, such as SIT, PREEN, KNEEL, and OFFER will be assumed immediately. This means dropping any other task to fulfill his command. The one exception is in immediate care of our children.

*** I am to fulfill any tasks my Beloved Master sets for me on a daily basis, whether those involve chores, services, or other attentions.

*** I am to attend to my Beloved Master every night just before bed by performing the OFFER stance and awaiting his pleasure.

*** I am to be available to please anyone my Beloved Master chooses in the same manner that I am to be available to my Beloved Master. If I am particularly uncomfortable with a command, I will communicate that to my Beloved Master.

*** As a polyamourous creature, I have permission to seek out, flirt with, and have online relations with anyone I choose. These relations can embody any form I choose so long as those relations remain online only. "Online only" means that there is no connection / communication that could turn into a physical connection.

*** If I am EVER to physically meet someone that my Beloved has not met and / or approved of, I am to make a safe call with Beloved Master and specify what the meeting will entail and ask for approval. If the meeting is such that it is to prepare a surprise for Beloved, I may make a safe call to another trusted person and specify what the meeting will entail.

*** I have permission to play with a few trusted others without a safe call, but only if such play has been discussed and cleared with my Beloved Master first. There is one exception to that rule, whom will not be publicly named.

*** If I am meeting to "play" with anyone, trusted or not, my Beloved Master should be informed beforehand where possible or as soon as possible afterwards. "Play" denotes ANY activity of a sexual or BDSM variety.

*** In my play with others my body is to remain unmarked unless explicit permission from Beloved Master is given. It is my responsibility to communicate this to my partners and to hold them to it. If I am marked, I shall be held responsible for the transgression.

*** I am to be fluid-bonded to no one except my Beloved Master.

What does your submission or slavery involve?

I am a 24/7 collared slave with a strong service orientation. I know there are lots of people who don't think that service-submission is an actual category, but whatever. It's the best label I've got for what it is I do.

In our household, there are a number of things that I am responsible for. Daily cleaning, cooking, laundry and mending, and childcare...typical 1950s wife stuff. I'm also responsible for the majority of the yardwork, as Beloved is allergic to the grass.

I serve as executive secretary...maintaining appointments, the calendar, events organizer.

I serve as accountant...I am responsible for paying bills, tracing expenses, savings.

In addition to these services, I am Beloved's lover, slut, and worshiper. Things like pampering Beloved's feet, painting his body, worshiping his cock whenever he wishes are just normal experiences in my life. I serve as artwork for Beloved's fancy, and he has established commands for his preferences. "Kneel". "Preen". "Offer".
Some of these are new....Beloved instructed me in the on Saturday....others aren't. The purpose is the same, though...assume a position so that my Beloved Master can inspect and enjoy his girl.

I know he is looking to provide me with more structure in my training and submission, so I am wondering what does your submission or slavery involve...or what do you have your submissive/slave do for you?

New Ritual

In my last post, I mentioned that Beloved has decided to implement some new rules and rituals. One of those new rituals began on Saturday.

After Boy was down for a nap, Beloved wanted to check in with me, both physically and mentally. He told me to strip to my skivvies and then inspected every bit of me. He asked how I was feeling, and I replied that I was still very dark inside. He decided that I was a very dirty girl and needed a bath.

I was escorted upstairs and told to sit in the tub sideways. Beloved tilted my chin up and began by washing my hair. I was given the bar of soap to wash my face, but the rest of my body was scrubbed down by Beloved. He used my new body mitt to lather me in cocoa butter soap, from my neck to the tips of my toes. Beloved had me stand and brace against the wall so that he could wash my backside and scrub my feet.

After rinsing me off, he applied conditioner to my hair, rinsed it, and then did it again, this time brushing my hair out to remove all the snarls. While he was brushing, he told me that he was thoroughly enjoying the process and that he would like to incorporate a bathing ritual into our week. Even when the week is hectic, I am to find an evening for Beloved to bath me.

I was rinsed a final time and wrapped in a thick bath sheet. Beloved dismissed me to finish my toilet and wait for him on the bed for further instruction.

It was really an amazing experience. Beloved is a very service-oriented Dominant. I felt incredibly submissive, which kind of surprised me, but the bath made me feel owned and cherished in a way I haven't felt in a long time.

Thank you, Beloved Master, for taking such good care of me and for reminding me of my place in your life.