20 Questions...BDSM style

I ganked this from kaya.
Tell me your deepest, darkest secrets and I’ll tell you mine…

1. Your role?
Safe answer, housewife. heh. I cook, I clean, I care for the kids, blah blah blah. I often provide other services, but "submissive" doesn't seem to fit real well these days. I dunno.

2. Current relationship?
Easy answer, married to Beloved. Less defined but reality is I'm also in a FWB with Jason.

3. Your favorite type of play?
Mental masochism, probably. The kind of play that gets inside my head, fucks me up, makes me cry, and then brings me back to a safe point.

4. Your most hated type of play?
Hate is such a strong word...but I think I do the worst with public humiliation.

5. The most annoying habit of your owner/slave/whatever you call your SO?
The clothes on the bathroom floor. Anywhere else, and it's just something else to pick up, but the clothes in the bathroom REALLY makes me grit my teeth.

6. Your deepest fear?
Being abandoned.

7. Your most memorable public experience?
Bits and pieces pop to mind...but I don't know what I'd call the most memorable. Immediate thoughts include first spanking at club, awkwardness of dropping by the Naperville munch after everyone had discussed the "Cole" incident, cleaning and fretting for the first DOM, the first and last hour at SJW.

8. What gets you in the mood?
*laughs* If you ask Beloved, it is having his vanilla friends coming over. hahaha Or basically any time that isn't realistic (ie, middle of the workday is another good time)

9. Favorite method of masturbation?
Me, myself, and I...under the covers, when no one is home.

10. Scariest thing you’ve seen or heard of in BDSM land?
There's a lot that squicks me, but the scariest is probably the complete disappearance of the person...lock them up in the dungeon, remove every outside contact, and never let them be seen again.

11. Number of hours you spend on Fet when you should be doing other things?
On FET? Not much...maybe an hour or so. On general things on the Internet? waaaaay too many.


12.Thing that was hotter in fantasy than it was in reality?
hmmm...I guess I'd have to say enemas. I'd read a some hot erotic around enemas, but when I finally had one, I just didn't get it at all. *shrug*

13. Most longed-for experience?
*laughs* Orgasm denial! Cause that would mean I orgasmed frequently enough that denying me would be mean, cruel, and sadistic! hahahaha

14. Ouchiest toy?
The worst thing I've experienced was the rat-tail that Beloved and Cole used on me. I think the Konics spatula has a lot of potential in that department, but so far it hasn't been yielded with the same intent as the rat-tail.

15.Book or movie that every newbie has to read/see?
uh, none? I don't think there's a lifestyle book that I have read cover-to-cover and would say it was a MUST-READ.

16. Thing you’d like to change about yourself?
*sigh* My embarrassment over BDSM activities is pretty high on the list. Normal answers like weight, confidence, that kind of thing. And I'd like to be happier. I seem to be pretty pessimistic these days.

17.Thing you’re most proud of?
My kids. Seriously...they drive me crazy and make me mad and frustrated, but when the shit is really hitting the fan, my kids are stunning and amazing.

18.Funniest dom name you’ve ever heard?
The ones that just make me think, Oh-yeah, you're-totally-someone-I'd-submit-to.

19. Do your family and friends know?
Some of them know some of it, but I'm not OUT to the world. *shrug* If people aren't comfortable with the hints that are in front of their eyes, I'm not going to rub their faces in it.

20. Is twenty questions too many?
Obviously yes, since a 20th question couldn't be dreamed up! *laughs* Maybe YOU should ask the 20th question...and I'll try to answer that.