BUT I WANT TO SCREAM!
I wish I could just be selfish and not give a rat's ass what others need or think. I wish I could give in to what *I* want every once in a while and not feel horribly guilty about it. I wish I knew what I wanted so I could consider the first two pieces.
*sigh* It's not exactly what I needed, but it's a little better. I blame the fact that it's Friday the 13th. *wry smile* And besides, if I got what I wished for, I wouldn't be Pixie, now would I? sheesh.
I can understand that sentiment. Since I am the one who manages and pays the bills, I'm always reluctant to spend money on gifts for myself knowing there is a bill due in a few days,
ReplyDeleteAnd whenever I do see something I want, I immediately ask, "do I really need it? is it really worth the cost?"
There are many times I have felt resentful about not getting more for myself, but I can't seem to shake being responsible. :(
When you pass up something you truly don't need, think of the stuff you're getting instead; have a budget for entertainment and other "frivolous" stuff just for you; tell Beloved about stuff you want sometimes, to make his task of figuring out what to get you (when he so chooses) easier.
ReplyDeleteAnother technique, or perhaps a synthesis of the above: put it out of your mind as soon as you decide you won't be getting it. If you keep thinking about it anyway, or keep coming back to it, tell Beloved about it. Maybe he'll help you put it in perspective, or tell you no you can't have it, or have to earn it...or just go get it. (Maybe he'll make you strangle me for this suggestion...)