Journal Prompt

Write down the first 5 things that come to your mind when you think about domestic service to your partner. What is involved in these things? How are they unique?

1) Household management. This is deliberately very broad because if I listed individual chores, I'd take up all five things! Household management is everything from outside chores (yardwork, grocery shopping) to housecleaning to laundry and cooking. This is probably the majority of my domestic service to Beloved and I'm not really sure how it is unique - I have a hard time explaining my submission because this particular service is so vanilla. I suppose it might be unique because of the pride *I* take in the house. I feel that it reflects directly on me rather than Beloved.

2) Personal assistant. I often run errands for Beloved, such as dropping off UPS packages, taking care of specific purchases, and other needs that are generally "business hour" places he doesn't have time to get to. I also manage his calendar and provide social networking for him. Again, this is something I have always done, even before D/s, so I'm not sure it is unique. I enjoy being able to provide the extra time for Beloved, though.

3) Hostess. This is just like it sounds...I play hostess or servant for events ranging from vanilla parties to the DOM. I consider this service to be unique because I try to remember and serve to any special preferences a guest might have.

4) Accountant. Managing the finances, paying bills, keeping the household on a sustainable budget, etc. Because I am detail-oriented, getting the bills paid on time is another service that Beloved expects from me. From my understanding, access to money that I haven't personally earned is somewhat unique in the D/s world.

5) Child-rearing. This is a tender subject. Even five months before I got pregnant with Boy, I declared I never wanted to have children. That opinion changed after spending a lot of time with a couple who were pregnant and some heart-to-heart talks with Beloved. *soft smile* He told me that it was the big family reunions that made him want his own children. I always wanted to adopt, but it was very clear this meant a lot to Beloved. While Beloved and I agreed to have children together, I never dreamed I would be the stay-at-home parent. On the bad days, this is most definitely a service I provide! I feel horribly guilty about those feelings, but there are times when it is Beloved's steady voice and stern direction that keep me from panicking. Please don't get me wrong...I love Boy and Girl! This just isn't exactly what I expected out of my life. Of course, if it weren't for the children, I might never have started this journey in the first place...