Power exchange

"Men desire women directly, women to a certain extent seem to desire the desire that men feel for them"

...this reminds me of what I understand of the gorean and indian perceptions of a woman's true power over men. Thus the need for slavery and total hiding of their bodies. Some women honor this power while others use it as one of the few sources of power this culture has left them to use.

I don't see it as my power, I see it as his power if he understands it and isn't afraid or doesn't let ego get in the way. Often times men are afraid that if they allow a women to know how much he desires her it gives her power over him but if you follow this concept through you realize even the strongest of women will go to the ends of the earth to please a man or remain in a place where she truly feels desired. We're really not all that complicated.

The power is also his in the way that a man's desire is more easily satiated, often times fleeting and in the end it can be simply desire. Where as for a woman it evolves more easily into so much more.

This exchange came from Eunice and SirJimA on FetLife. I read this aloud to Beloved and we both agree the insight is fascinating and enlightening. He said, "Perhaps that is why we work so well; after all these years, I still desire you."

*blush*

Carnal aspects aside, I think there is a lot of truth in the thoughts here...at least in my life. I need to feel wanted, needed, and special IN HIS EYES. As his submissive, the work I do around the house and with the kids is bound up as a service to him. As my Dominant, he gives me recognition and reassurance that I'm not "just a housewife" to him.

When I am struggling or feeling overwhelmed, I allow him to set my priorities and give me focus. Sometimes, that has meant he chains me to the bed so that I nap while he takes the kids out. It sounds kind of ridiculous, but I have a tendency to overwork myself and not take proper care of my own needs. The D/s gives him the authority to step in.

He also takes pride in showing me and my work off in the community, and that in turn gives me pride in all that I do.