Submissive Journal Prompts posed this question: "Do you feel there is a learning curve in slavery? Do you feel you have to unlearn certain things that society has taught you?"
I think that there is a learning curve in ANY relationship, not just M/s relationships. Both people in the relationship need to figure out what it is that provides fulfillment or the relationship will not last. Slavery as a specific type of learning curve, however. A slave needs to pay particular attention to Master's needs, wants, and desires. There are going to be stumbling moments until the slave has learned what is expected. Masters can smooth the way by being clear and expressive about what it is that is wanted. An ambiguous request can only lead to frustration between Master and slave.
As to unlearning certain things society has taught...That has not been a challenge for me. Truthfully, accepting Beloved's collar and ownership relieves my concerns about social rules I don't like. For example, Beloved enjoys my physique and excuses me from the social beauty rules about being a size 2.
Perhaps more interesting is that I've had to learn the rules of kink communities. "Normal" conversation openers, like inquiries about work, family, even names, can create a very tense situation. I've also had to find a balance for being submissive and yet responsible for setting dates, meeting people, and identifying events of interest.
There is also seems to be a rift between slaves, BDSMers, bottoms, submissives, and other labels. Navigating those paths has been a challenge for me at times.
Those are my thoughts on the subject...what are yours?
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