Feedback requested!

So I've been reading and reading and reading...in part to deny the incrouching deadline, in part because the stuff is interesting...but I finally put together an outline for the presentation I am giving at SJW. I would really appreciate some feedback on what I've got...

I need to submit this SOON...!

When Lifestyles Collide: living both poly and D/s lives

by pixie, 2010

Very few studies of alternative sexual expressions like bondage/discipline, dominance/submission and sadomasochism currently exist, despite the estimation that 23% of the population indulge in terms of fantasy, at least on occasion (Arndt et al, 1985) and 10 % of the population consider it a lifestyle(Masters et al. 1995).  Even fewer studies exist about variations in non-monogamous intimate relationships that are consensual and do not involve deception or “cheating” (labeled as “polyamorous relationships” or “swinging” among other relationship types).  The intersection of non-mongamy and Dominance/submission is complicated and interesting, and it is is what we will be discussing.


1.Why non-monogamy?
a) explore different interests
b) explore different experiences
c) NRE

2.Long-term vs. Short-term

3.What kind of role do YOU play?
a) switch
b) alpha
c) beta
d) sister/brother
e) vanilla

4.The Balancing Act
a) Consenting unequal power dynamics in the relationship - When you've got serious power exchange, many of the "normal" rules of polyamory don't apply. What do we do instead?
b) “Fairness” - when one partner is more 'taken' by a 'new' person and elects to show that new person more attention and support than their long term preexisting partner.

5.The S-Word
Even in SM and polyamory discussion groups I’ve noticed that when we start talking about actual fucking people will be quite shocked. How do you negotiate sex and service?

6.Questions/comments/discussion