No surprise, I'm not a fan of my menstrual cycle, or my moon, as I prefer to refer to it. It interferes with my life and my sex life. Beloved swears he isn't bothered by it, but *I* AM. As in HARD LIMIT bothered.
I just don't feel sexy at all, and I definitely don't feel clean. I get moody. Since the pregnancies, the cramps go down my legs and make me miserable. By day 3, the cramps end, but by then I'm so tender and sore and raw. I'm pretty sure I'm dealing with menorrhagia (definitely more than 80 ml, and resulting in anemia), but when I mentioned it to my OB, she wanted to insert Mirena. I felt like it was a pressure sale...not necessarily right for ME, but the latest and greatest that the pharmaceutical rep peddled. Nope, not interested. So, every month, I'm challenged by this, but usually I just close up shop and whimper.
Sometimes I feel like an utter heel putting him off. Sometimes I'm just not convinced that he really doesn't mind. Sometimes I wonder if the "red wings" culture is something selfishly I'm denying.
I'm I just being a prud?
Obviously it's not about what Beloved feels, it's about how YOU feel about it. If you don't feel sexy, if you don't feel like doing anything, then it is perfectly acceptable to wait until moon has passed.
ReplyDeleteLet's face it, if you are not feeling sexy, if your are not energized, then the sex isn't going to be as good. Perhaps some men don't care (hey, it's a naked body), but for me, the mental arousal is a critical component.
Ditto what Crumpet said. You need to be in the mood, and even D/s can only do so much to try to get you into it.
ReplyDeleteI must admit, I love having the Mirena. I don't have problems with menorrhagia, but do with oral contraceptives.
ReplyDeleteIt is working out especially well since Master is in my life. We don't see each other often and when we do I don't have to worry about what time of the month it is.
But, as has been said previously, it is how you feel about the issue.
Good luck to you.
curiouskaty