from lunaKM
What is one of the most valuable services you can or do provide?
If I am to be totally honest, I believe that my happiness is the service Beloved desired most. It sounds kind of ironic, but he is often telling me that all he needs is my smile.
This is one of the reasons that we entered into the D/s in the first place...because I was in despair and depressed about my life and I didn't value my service or myself enough. Through the D/s, there is a little more structure for appreciation of my service, for Beloved to (try to) place limitations on what I attempt, and for general balance and happiness in the house. No, it isn't perfect. I still take a little blue soul vitamin every day, but in giving my service to Beloved, he gives me purpose and happiness, which enables me AND Beloved to continue on.
I chose this particular prompt because I need to remember this...it is an important lesson. Beloved wants me to be happy, above all else. No service is greater than my smile.
I'm reminded of the book Stepford Wives by the late Ira Levin. You could be the perfect submissive housewife in every way possible, but you would become nothing more than a robot. I couldn't think of anything worse than that! Any happiness the Stepford wives displayed was solely for their husbands' benefit.
ReplyDeleteIn reality, you can't be happy for Beloved, only for yourself. Likewise, you are not responsible for his happiness. That's not to say your state of mind doesn't affect him, it will.
Everyone must strive for their own happiness, seek out what pleases them, what makes them laugh and smile and want to dance; and when you are smiling, you will find the people around you smiling too.
In order to serve Beloved, you must serve yourself.
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