Day 22 - May 22
I am gracious. I'm working with the Merriam-Webster definition: 3 : : employing tact and conciliation especially in situations of stress
In general, I try to mediate differences and frustrations. I try to see the point of view, offer alternative communications, interpret the deeper issues. I can usually straddle the fence and understand both sides. Such a talent was both helpful and devisive when I was in politics, but among friends, it is a blessing.
Sometimes, it is more a demonstrative action, like last night. When we retired, Beloved and Rain were "in the mood" and I just wasn't. Despite the protests that we could all just be good and go to sleep, I deliberately fired each of them up and then cheerfully exited the room in favor of the couch. *grins* I waited long enough to be satisfied that my little mischief worked and then dirfted off to sleep. At some point, Beloved came and brought me back to bed and the three of us cuddled into DreamTime... *smiles*
I don't know that Rain really understood before that I really am 100% okay with the relationship. Today, it was as if we were sisters shopping...lounging in a Cuddler recliner, getting a pedicure (my first one ever!), and talking about boys (specifically AM and Beloved). She seemed much more at ease today.
I worry about both Rain and Beloved. She is officially moving to Pennsylvania in June, taking her place at AM's side, which is what Beloved and I have both pushed for. At the same time, Beloved's currying a sad heart for losing the close relationship, and she's scared of moving so far from the familiar. I wish I could offer an alternative, but there really aren't any midpoints for this situation. *sigh* Sometimes, there are no good answers.
