stop struggling

Talina{ZAR} is one of the amazing people I met at SJW. I think I have a little bit of hero-worship because she is "proof" that my former roommate had ZERO clue about the Gorean world. Thank god! If J had a clue about anything, I think the world might collapse.

Anyway, Talina posted a journal entry that speaks to me a lot (although I don't know I'm cut for the slave label yet). The highlighted bits are my own emphasis.

Your identity will, by definition, change as your ideas of who you are change. You are in the process of acknowledging parts of yourself that you have hidden for years, and that automatically means that your identity is shifting. This has probably happened to you many times in your life, and you probably didn’t fight it before, because it seemed natural. After all, if you’re not a different person at age 45 than you were at age 25, you’ve missed some incredible opportunities!

So, why is it so uncomfortable to contemplate developing a slave identity? The fact that you can’t envision the endpoint. And that’s good! That means what you are becoming is so fantastic, your imagination can’t even define it.

As far as your Owner remaking you – just not possible. I know, I know, FetLifers talk about how their Owners formed them….yada yada yada. Not true. What happens is that WE CHOOSE how we’re going to change. The most our Owners can do is provide the catalyst for us to desire the change, as well as some direction on how they would prefer the change to go. From there, it’s all about us and our choices. Please stop thinking of yourself as some helpless victim who is going to be irrevocably changed against his will by some Owner who is going to abuse the privilege. Again, not gonna happen, dude.

When you relax and simply realize that the slave has always been inside you, and is simply asking for a little time-share with the outer world, you’ll laugh at how silly you were to struggle so hard. Let your inner slave have a chance, why don’t ya! He’s been hidden for years, and just wants a chance for expression, like all the other aspects of who you are.

Okay, so I know this message is a bit rough. It’s clear, straight talk with no fluffy filler. If you don’t like that kinda talk, let me know now, so I can be more gentle in the future. Otherwise, you’re gonna get more of this stuff later. smile